For people who finds it difficult to motivate themselves to work daily..

This is somehow the most common problem people will face, especially when they are with the job which they are not keen on..

I've experienced such things myself, and I too find it difficult to motivate myself to work sometimes..But..Somehow or rather, I think I've got a way to help these people manage such situation, or at least make their morning better..

Staying positive in thinking might make one feel better for a while, but such positive mindset might not last for long without some form of positive motivation..

Which means positive thinking + positive motivation will last you long in a field somehow..
But how are we going to achieve that?

Although both might sound alike, but then..let me explain..

For example..

Positive thinking is like..
"Today will be a better day!!"..
But as I explained earlier, such thinking might make you feel better for a while, but after certain period of time, such positive thinking will soon simmer as there were no causes supporting such thought..
In which, such case is known to most people as "Self Delusion"..

Whereas

Positive motivation is like..
"My best talk-cok buddy is on shift today!!" or..
"Im going out with my gf tomorrow evening after work!!"
It does not necessary need to involve any form of positive motivation from work site..
It can be anything, as it is the mood that counts..
And as long as it makes you happy and keep you looking forward to the day itself..The goal is achieved..

So, for me, I always tell myself..
"Hey, my talk-cok buddy is working today..(positive motivation).."
"And no matter how bad things are going to get at work today, it will be better with them around..(positive thinking).."

Try doing this starting from today..who knows, you might feel better..

Ashame of being Poor? Nope..I find it as a form of motivation..

Is being Poor a sin?
No..I personally do not think so myself..

But often there is a saying: if you're poor, you must be poor with pride..
And that used to be in the past, and based on certain circumstances..
Talking about this Pride, against Pride means doing something illegal or against the good nature will, or against your own will..

But..If given a scenerio that, if you're in deep trouble and need financial aids from others, and without this financial aids, the whole family will NOT be able to survive as there are no breadwinners in the family, and there are 3 OTHER family members in the family who are unable to work until 3-5yrs later..

will you guys choose to have pride? or choose to get help to survive?

For me, I personally will humbly receive help from others, and in return, I will return the favours to those who helped me in the future when my family life is better..

And yes, I do not deny the fact that I AM POOR..as it is the true fact, and therefore I WILL try to change the fate from being poor to slowly becoming richer..And not just depending on pride, and putting the blames on any of my fore-fathers that I was born to be poor..

In order to succeed, one has to put in effort..Based on pride alone, I don't think it can get us far..Yes, with pride at work, it is good..It shows the amount of confidence on your work..
But with pride being unwilling to receive help when others see that you're suffering or struggling, that is called "all the best to you"..

So..when there's people who tell me, hey, demin..You're a Poor piece of ****...
I will just laugh, and reply with a Yes..

"Yes, im poor, but I WILL be richer (future) in terms of personal assets, and I was already independent without any support from parents since young, and unlike most of you who live in 4-5 rooms HDB flats or bigger, I only live in 2 room HDB flat since I was 5 yrs old, and unlike most of you who has a complete family, I had been living without a Father since 5yrs old..But Im not sad about it, and neither that Im complaining about it.. In fact, my life is quite fulfilling, my friends are great, and Im seriously more happier than those people who are richer than me..LoL..And I still do not care that the fact that Im poor..who cares..As long as we lived life to the fullest.. Ask any friends around me, and they will tell you that, going out with me, you will feel that laughter and fun is all around..I lose in terms of being poor, but I won in terms of happiness"..


This is the PRIDE I have..(below statement)
I will receive help from those who really meant to help me, and will not reject those who wants to help willingly, and I will be very grateful, and of course, I will help them in return in near futures to come.."Survival or Pride?"

For those who gives sacarstic remarks, despises me and yet wants to help (which I do not think will happen since they despise you so much), then THIS KIND OF HELP, i will REJECT..
The reason mainly is that, since they do not meant to help, why pretend to help? why bother to act in front of others? does it get them to stand a chance for the upcoming voting of MP selection?


To my friends:
Above statements are dedicated to a few particular person, and this kind of prideVSmoney problem was not posed to me, so don't worry, it was not me who's affected..
Just stating the fact that, when one needs help, do not be afraid to ask for help. Humans are born to help one another, not to despise each other..

To guys who despises poor ppl like us:
NOTE - you can give comments about us, but keep them to yourselves, and if you do not wish to help, pls do not pretend that you want to help, and then followed by sessions of "talking behind the backs"..I believe in KARMA..LoL..

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My personal Motto:
Fairness, Justice, Equality

Finally, The momentum of studies is back!!

Just when the study term for the specific module is ending soon, now then I got back my studies momentum..But well, its not too late though..LoL..I still have about 2 weeks time before the exam is here..

Part time studies is tough, seriously stressful too..But it makes my life sufficient and occupied..No regret about it..LoL..
It keeps the brain working, and made it work extra hard and it feels good to be this stress sometimes..Haha..sounds sick? but nop, jus simply say that I know a lil bit about stress management? Its also about endurance..Hopefully I can finish this 3yrs marathon..

For better future, better pay!!

Guys who wants Vietnam wife, think THRICE

From an article I saw via the web out of boredom, I found this..

http://www.yawningbread.org/arch_2005/yax-464.htm


So Frens n fellows interested in getting Foreign Wife from Agencies..Well..I would say..think THRICE..LoL..seriously the logic the guy stated is quite true and logical..

Its stil better to find the one which u truely love though..

Happy New Year to All !!!

Happy new year to everyone, hope this year will be a great year for everyone..

Wishing:
The studying ones Xue Ye Jing Bu..
The working ones Bu Bu Gao Sheng..
The married ones Jia Ting Mei Man..

cant think of much liaoz..lol..Anywayz, enjoy e celebs!!

Free Consulation services forum created

Since a lot of ppl wish to have consultation, I was thinking of maybe setting up a forum for Free Personal Consultation Service..Yes!! Absolutely FREEEE!!

Free Consultation includes :
-Saving and Finance Management (How to save more, and how to plan your expenditures)
-Studies and Jobs coping (How to juggle both, and how to deal with work)
-Relationship probs (Im not the best consultant in this field, but wil try to help out)
-Others

The forum is: http://kendraymin.forumotion.net

So..maybe you can also email to me also..
ashlau_84@hotmail.com.. =)

Full Time Job, Part Time Studies

For guys who are interested to noe about Part Time Engineering Studies + Full Time Job..

1) Uni Engineering PT studies are not like Poly Days..it may seems relax when they said 1 module for 2months at a time, but then the schedule is very tight, and its like a super crash course..whereas the 3rd week is the mid term test..followed by an exam the next month..
LoL..how does tat sound, stil as simple as it seems like?

2)Dun think about gaming, bcos gaming = Time + $$$ gone..Time is not even enough for revision, dun even mention about gaming..lol..But at least stil can steal a bit of time for movies etc though..But Strictly NO GAMING, becos its too addictive..

3)Work office hr is quite a good choice, but definitely not 12hrs shift..12hrs shift affects attendance rate, n if you skipped a lesson, it means TATS IT..the module is as good as gone case..LoL..$2000 gone down the drain..

4)Best way = Study Hard!! Have discipline to do revision..Be Eager to learn..Ask Lecturer/Prof if in doubt, thru email (Which I always did)..LoL..

There's always toughness, but it depends on how you deal with it..
DO NOT give up, becos there are a lot of ppl doing PT studies n FT work too..LOL..